Obviously the Hero

I started out my novel with a hero.
He was brooding and dark and troubled-BUT he was the hero.
After two years…I’m not really sure he fits the bill.
My supporting character is (was) far more interesting than my hero.

What’s a writer to do?
I had my supporting character killed. She was far too interesting and likable

What is going to happen next? I wish I had a clue. Those of you who follow this page know that two years ago I created this tale without a map. There are loose ends everywhere needing tending to.

As of right now-I am heroless. I might like it that way..


Ladies!..(And Gents) Is This Harassment?

This is mild harassment. Unfortunately for 1 in 4 women harassment becomes assault. This is not exaggerated-many women (including myself) have experienced this on a regular basis.


This woman walked through the streets of NYC for 10 hours to document what most women have to put up with whilst going about their business. Ladies, we’ve all been there right?

So School Me!

I’ve had this in many countries around the world…in different ways.

In Africa you get catcalls but mostly unblinking stares from one end of the street to the other. In London, similar to the video but slightly more restrained. In Scandinavia, polite questions. In Paris, stares and a few cat calls – but not a lot. NYC has to be the loudest and most opinionated about one’s shape, butt and what they would like to do with you as in the video and in LA you get stopped so men can tell you their resume and about the ads they’ve appeared in! (I’m only partly joking!)

Now I’m a pretty down to earth gal…

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I breathe in. Sight. Fire.
Breathe out.
We are one rhythm.
One unit.
Controlled, steady, sure.

Another day-
another practice.
Muscle Memory

For you see I am a woman.
I live and thrive in a man’s world.
But given the choice between hand to hand and a swift bullet
I’d draw every time.

I am small.
My body has been broken many times
But I will not be a victim.
I am a woman, but I am not weak.

I will protect those I have sworn to
Including myself-
Including you.

Waiting for Baby

Dear Baby,

I can hardly contain myself! I am 32 weeks pregnant and it feels like one giant night before Christmas. The closer it gets to our due date, the further away it seems! I am anxious and giddy all at the same time!

Everything has been set up and all I have left to do is wait and attend the classes that I signed your daddy and I up for. I thought that waiting til we were 18 weeks to find out whether you were going to be a boy or a girl was hard, but waiting to meet our you is driving me batty!

I really do mean batty. My dreams have gotten so strange and they always revolve around the birth. Most of the time they’re pretty creepy! I guess my brain is just trying to keep up with me, but just once I would like to have a dream that doesn’t involve giving birth to zombie triplets!

Christmas cannot get here soon enough! In the mean time, the cats have enjoyed testing out all of your stuff! Henry Cat particularly enjoys your stroller, so I suppose we got a good one! I have been practicing putting on the Boba Wrap that we bought. It turns out wrap carriers require a bit of a learning curve, but we think that you will like it.



The Murky Quagmire of Writing

Dear Novelists Who Neglected to Plan,

I have this novel that I have been coddling for the last two-nearly three-years. We’ve had moments where we were totally into one another…and moments where we lost touch so much that we didn’t even have anything in common anymore!

I have written and rewritten, but mostly I have procrastinated. You see-this novel represents my very first real attempt at finishing a book project. Who knows…it may even be my last. I jumped into this idea without even so much as a summary and I certainly didn’t have a plot map! Yikes! I know, you seasoned veterans who may be reading this are cringing. To be honest, I am cringing right along side you.

I don’t know where this story will go, or if it will go at  all. However, I have to say that since there was very little of this story that was planned, it seems to be writing itself. It has grown and developed and changed over time. I believe I may actually have hit the teenage years of this novel’s life because it is getting quite angst-y.

I cannot say that I regret this grave writing error. I cannot even pretend to be disappointed; because while my first draft is a complete catastrophe and certainly far from written-this novel has been one of the biggest adventures, most passionate relationship, and most soul-searching quest of my life.

I’m far from through my hero’s journey. There have been many dark nights for this writer’s soul. I have often felt like simply running it through a paper shredder. However, after 21,034 words I certainly can’t turn back now.

If you are an aspiring writer…and you have made the plan-free jump into writing your first book, I encourage you not to give up! You will hit road blocks. There will be many days-weeks even- that you do not know which way to send your hero (or antihero). But this story is in you, and it longs to come out. We may not have chosen the most logical road to writing, but it sure is an interesting one!



Blogging Stage Fright?

Dear Blogger Afraid to Blog,

You are not alone.

You may have noticed, (since you are reading this) I have a blog. This blog has been around since July and yet is very sparse isn’t it? I have been grinding my teeth and sighing at this page for what feels like eons! A post here…procrastination…MORE procrastination…procrastination…post there. It’s an evil cycle that I cannot seem to break out of. Why? What if no one reads it? Or worse…what if someone does?? Am I witty enough? Do I have enough to share, to contribute to the daily lives of others, enough that it is actually worth taking a precious few moments of time to sit and read the drivel that comes flying across this keyboard???

Perhaps and also perhaps not. Do you want to know something? That is okay! Why? Because what we have here in the magical blogosphere is a community of people passionate enough to write about the things that they love. I find that even if I am not personally into scuba diving, it is the passion of those bloggers who are, that lead me to devour the words that they write. I may not give two hoots about learning more about photography, but I find, that if there is enough passion behind a blogger explaining his or her different lenses etc. it is enough for me to take my time to share in their passion for a little while.

The passion that you share with me as a blogger fuels my own passion for my own creativity. It makes me think that like you-I want to leave a creative and passionate mark on the world. So…you may not care that much about my love affair with tea. It may not be of great interest to you which chickens lay the best eggs (in my humble opinion). However, through our passions, through our hobbies, through our creativity we create a community that shares thoughts and ideas. We spread feelings and encouragement in each of our posts.

If you are reading this and you find that you have thought some or all of the thoughts that I have harbored about blogging, if you are suffering from blogging stage fright- write it out. Let it flow. Get rid of it however you can. Why? Because the world needs your passion. The world needs more people who care enough about life to share it in words and pictures. We need you…I need you.



It’s that time of year again!

When many of us think about how autumn is portrayed on Facebook, Instagram, or the Internet at large, many of us picture perfectly manicured fingers clutching Starbucks cups and long rants from impassioned fans about the virtues of the Pumpkin Spice Latte.

Then there are those that spend most of October gearing up for one grand event…NaNoWriMo…aka National Novel Writing Month (this isn’t to say that novelists are not also pounding down the PSL). If you love writing (which I’m assuming most bloggers do) and you want to try your hand at writing a novel this is a great way to jump in head first! You don’t have to ever have been a novelist before, all you need is an idea. nanowrimo.org lets you track your word count, provides motivation, inspiration, and community for aspiring novelists. This is an annual event that is free to enter and takes place every November!

I actually had every intention of signing up this year, since I chickened out last year. However, I have come up with another excuse. I’m already knee deep into a novel. So I have decided that instead of trying to come up with a brand new novel for the sake of NaNoWriMo I am going to try to finish my current novel this November tracking my progress on my own. If I want to finish this book by the end of November I will have to write about 980 words per day. “That isn’t so bad” I tell myself…unfortunately…I have a severe procrastination habit…particularly when the waters of writing get murky.

In any case I challenge you to either sign up for NaNoWriMo or push yourself to finish whatever book you have in progress in celebration of National Novel Writing Month this November! We can do it! Leave a comment below if you are in the process of writing a novel and what the genre is, or if you have signed up for NaNoWriMo this year! Together we can provide encouragement and support. Fellow and aspiring novelists please feel free to introduce yourself below and tell us about YOUR greatest hurdles to sitting down and cranking out those words!